BBC Story on Halala Marriage

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Last month the BBC decided to release a program about a very rare practice in the Islamic community of the UK known as “Halala Marriage,”  Along with the interview, the BBC released an article on their website entitled “The women who sleep with a stranger to save their marriage.”

As expected, the story first starts out with how the poor Muslim women was facing domestic violence (which is not sanctioned by Islam) and then concludes with the women explaining how her Husband divorced her thrice saying “Talaq, Talaq, Talaq” (i.e. I divorce you, I divorce you, I divorce you.)

Now for the people at the BBC, (whose reporters are mostly  made up of Christians and Atheists) it appears that every time they approach the Islamic community in any fashion, it is always as an ill informed outsider looking in.  And as we know, most of the time things…

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  1. There is a hadith that curses this behavior

    “’The Curse of Allah be upon the one who marries a divorced woman with the intention of making her lawful for her former husband, and upon the one for whom she is made lawful!’.

    This Hadith was reported by Hadhrat Ali ibn Talib (R.A.) (Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2071).

    But part of the problem that leads to this social problem is that Muslims have drifted away from the Qur’an.

    Here is a good article that Muslims need to reflect on and read again and again.

    https://primaquran.wordpress.com/2016/12/29/divorce-according-to-the-quran/

    When this superb primaquran.wordpress.com site mentions the couple verses at the end, it is not supporting the Quran only position. For the primaquran position is both against solaquran and against the paraquran positions.

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  2. An article from another site says

    “Halala is an offshoot of another un-Islamic custom, triple Talaq. Quran clearly gives the method for divorce in three months; if that is followed and made mandatory there would be no Halala issue altogether.

    Muslims should not accept divorce as legal until a divorce has been pronounced on three separate occasions. If this were made clear to couple that no matter how many times the husband pronounced divorce the first time it will be considered one divorce, after which coming together is just a matter of sleeping together and so on, this evil custom will come to an end.

    So this evil is basically a result of a craftily devised Mullah conspiracy to fulfill their own vile desires. That is why they have made triple Talaq acceptable and Halala prevalent.”

    I am not a scholar and I don’t know if the triple talaq process can be reset as mentioned above but it seems reasonable to think it can….after all, God describes marriage as a source of support and it is not emotionally supportive if a rash husband says talaq twice and then the next years are on edge if he says it again.

    Again, something Muslim scholars need to reflect deeply on…..time for a return to the Qur’an as front and center.

    Time for God’s words to be front and center instead of the mindset of the last 12 hundred years of lowering the status of God’s words from it’s primacy.

    Still, since I don’t know and perhaps it can’t be reset….Muslim husbands should exercise caution and not let their male temper problems create tension for the family and himself later on.

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  3. if you watch the debate with br Adnan and lizzie, Adnan quotes the hadith that says that the curse of allah is on anyone who takes part in or does this action but for some reason lizzie still said it’s allowed in Islam even though the prophet mentioned it by name and condemned it….she really puzzles me

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  4. Paulus,

    If the Prophet cursed the man, then it is forbidden. There is also a hadith in Ibn Majah in the article where the practice Halila is forbidden explicitly by name.

    Yes, it is a Muslim problem.

    It is not a common problem but there are ignorant Muslims who don’t properly follow Islam and Muslims cannot put it under the rug.

    But the problems in Christianity is far greater. Trinity, vicarious atonement, original sin, the division of God into multiple persons….these preposterous blasphemies are very common problems among Christians.

    Doctrines like vicarious atonement is not just preposterous but it is also supremely unjust to the infinite core.

    Many just don’t know but those who read this blog should be quite informed.

    These are not just evil doctrines Paulus, but they are wickedly evil.

    All of Prophet’s would recoil if they hear any of them.

    You can continue to keep your head in the sand, but reality and goodness will not go away however how much you want them to go away.

    And it won’t help you if some Muslims don’t follow Islam and the Qur’an.

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  5. Halala means an intention where a man asks his ex-wife to marry another man and have sex with him just to make her lawful to him again. And on this contract the three parties i.e., The Man, Ex-Wife and the Billy-GOat(another man) agree to do such thing, this is called halala which is strictly a haram thing in Islam.

    #1.Lizzie shamelessly mention that Quran 2:230 implies halala.She interpolates his own sad views into the Quran by claiming that the Quran allows halala. Can she back her arguments up by Standard Tafsirs of Classical scholars? This is dismissed as errant nonsense by all those who know what this verse says.It just goes to show that a ‘little knowledge is dangerous’, I would like to add that severely stunted knowledge coupled with a hateful agenda is even more dangerous as illustrated by the nature of the ignorant claims of the Islamophobes.

    This verse is not understood the way understand. Check out Tafsir Ibn Kathir

    http://www.qtafsir.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=172

    The reason for the woman (who was divorced thrice) to marry another man must be that the man desires her and has the intention of having an extended married life with her. These are the legal goals and aims behind marriage. If the reason behind the second marriage was to make the woman eligible for her ex-husband again, then this is the Tahlil that the Hadiths have cursed and criticized. In addition, when the reason behind this marriage (if it was Tahlil) is announced in the contract, it would make the contract invalid according to the majority of the scholars.
    Imam Ahmad reported that `Abdullah bin Mas`ud said, “Allah’s Messenger cursed the one who does Tahlil, the one in whose favor it is done, those who eat Riba (usury) and those who feed it (pay the usury).” At-Tirmidhi and An-Nasa’i reported this Hadith and At-Tirmidhi said, “This Hadith is Hasan.” He said, “This is what is acted upon according to people of knowledge among the Companions, among whom are `Umar, `Uthman and Ibn `Umar. It was also the saying of the scholars of Fiqh among the Tabi`in (second generation of Islam). And it has been reported from `Ali, Ibn Mas`ud and Ibn `Abbas”.
    In his Mustadrak, Al-Hakim reported that Nafi` said: “A man came to Ibn `Umar and asked him about a man who divorced his wife three times. Then, his brother married her to make Tahlil for his brother, without the brother knowing this fact. He then asked, “Is she allowed for the first (husband)” He said, “No, unless it is a marriage that involves desire. We used to consider this an act of adultery during the time of Allah’s Messenger .” Al-Hakim said, “This Hadith has a Sahih chain although they (Al-Bukhari and Muslim) did not record it.”The wording of this Hadith indicates that the ruling came from the Prophet . Abu Bakr bin Abu Shaybah, Al-Jawzjani, Harb Al-Kirmani and Abu Bakr Al-Athram said that Qabisah bin Jabir said that `Umar said, “If the participants to Tahlil are brought to me, I will have them stoned.”

    [Tafsir Ibn Kathir]

    Also Maulana Maududi Tafsir

    It is known from authentic Traditions that it is totally illegitimate for a person to arrange the marriage of his divorced wife with someone else on the understanding that the latter will divorce her to make it possible for the former husband to recontract marriage with that woman. Such trickery would in fact be an act of sheer sexual corruption and would not render the woman liable to remarriage with her former husband. According to a Tradition transmitted from ‘Ali, Ibn Mas’ud, Abu Hurayrah and ‘Uqbah ibn ‘Amir, the Prophet pronounced his curse on those who arrange, as well as on those who agree to contract, such fictitious marriages. (See Muslim. ‘Talaq’, l5, 71; Nasa’i, ‘Talaq’, 8; Ahmad b. Hanbal, Musnad, vol. 1, P. 314 and vol. 5, p. 334; Al-Muwatta’, ‘Talaq’, 27; Abu Da’ud. ‘Talaq’. 10 – Ed.)

    [Tafsir Maududi]

    According to Hazrat Umar (R.A.) the punishment of Halala is Rajam.

    ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab (may Allaah be pleased with him) said whilst addressing the people: “By Allaah, no muhallil or muhallal lahu will be brought to me but I will stone them.”[This is narrated by Ibn Abi Shayba in his Musannif 7/293, Abd al-Razzaaq with his chain in his al-Musannif 6/2650, Sunan Saeed bin Mansoor 2/75,ad-Dahabee in Seyar ailam an-Nubala under the Tarjuma of Al-Amash]

    If Caliph Umar would see the practice of halala he would have ordered to stone these people (who practice even after knowing it is haram) to death.

    Then we have famous Scholars condemning like

    Ibn al-Qayyim said:
    “With regard to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) cursing them [the muhallil and the muhallal lahu], this is either telling that Allah, may He be exalted, has cursed them, or it is a supplication for them to be cursed. This indicates that it is haraam and is a major sin. End quote from Zaad al-Ma‘aad fi Hadiy Khayr al-‘Ibaad (5/672)”

    So here we see that the concept of Allah or the prophet Muhammad (pbuh) cursing some action means clearly that it it considered impermissible.

    In addition to the past scholars forbidding such practices, we also have modern Islamic countries not only banning the practice, but also considering it as fornication. Take for instance the previous Mufti of Saudi Arabia, Shaykh ibn Baaz who said about Halala marraige:

    “This is one of the most abhorrent kinds of falsehood, and one of the gravest kinds of corruption. He is in effect a zaani (fornicator or adulterer), because he did not marry her so that she could be a wife to him, and keep him chaste and stay with him, and so that he might hope to have children from her. No, rather he came as a borrowed billy-goat, to make her permissible for the one who came before him, by having intercourse with her once, then leaving her and finishing with her. This is the muhallil; his marriage is invalid and is not legitimate, and she does not become permissible for the first husband so long as (the second husband) married her with this intention and for this purpose. It is an invalid marriage and she is not permissible for him or for the first husband, because this is not a marriage, and Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “until she has married another husband” [al-Baqarah 2:230]. This is a borrowed billy-goat, not a legitimate husband, and he does not make her permissible for the first husband .”
    End quote from Fataawa ash-Shaykh Ibn Baaz (20/277, 278)

    We also have Shaykh Muhammad Al-Munajid who when asked about such marraiges said:
    “It is not permissible for the man who issued the divorce, or for the woman, to use tricks to get around the laws of Allah and get back together by means of what is called a tahleel marriage. This kind of marriage takes several forms, including the following:
    1. where the husband who had issued the divorce, or the woman, or her guardian, hire a human “billy-goat”, and stipulate that he must marry the divorced woman, consummate the marriage with her, then divorce her, and they give him a sum of money in return for that!
    2. Where a man marries that divorced woman without making any agreement with anybody, but his aim is to make her permissible for the first husband, then he divorces her.
    Tahleel marriages are haraam and invalid, and those who do that deserve to be cursed.”

    In addition to this the Standing Committee in Saudi Arabia was asked about a similar case in which they issued the following ruling (which mind you is then becomes the official government opinion):

    “Getting married with the intention of divorce is a temporary marriage, and a temporary marriage is an invalid marriage, because it is mut’ah, and mut’ah is haraam by consensus. Valid marriage is where a man gets married with the intention of keeping his wife and staying with her if she proves to be a good wife and he gets along with her, otherwise he may divorce her. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “either you retain her on reasonable terms or release her with kindness” [al-Baqarah 2:229].
    And Allaah is the Source of strength. May Allaah send blessing and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and companions.
    Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn ‘Abd-Allaah Aal al-Shaykh, Shaykh ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Ghadyaan, Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan, Shaykh Bakr Abu Zayd.”
    Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (18/448, 449).

    So Lizzie stop mis-quoting verses. Go read and learn from our exegetes and seek the help of our scholars if you are sincere and honest individual.

    She then claims the law of Quran oppressive where it is incumbent upon women to have a normal marriage and then have a normal divorce after which she can go back to her former husband. Well, In Islam, if a woman gets divorced or divorces herself from her husband through the Islamic court by “Khala'”, then the only way she can get back with her husband, or her husband gets back to her is by HER MARRYING ANOTHER PERSON, HAVE SEXUAL INTERCOURSE WITH HIM, AND THEN GET A DIVORCE FROM HIM. This is to guarantee that divorce would not be a joke among Muslims. And both Man and Woman should think before they take extreme action and not in haste and under anger.

    #2.The hadees of Rifa’h that Lizzie mentioned doesn’t mention that Abd al-Rahman married her with the intention of Halala. Rather the reports of the hadees indicate that he married her and wanted to keep her, and he did not divorce her just because she asked for a divorce. Rather she wanted to go back to her first husband.And then Prophet explained and made her understand. That is it. Simple. Where is halala in this?

    #3.These are the 5 hadees which condemns halala.

    It was narrated that Ibn ‘Abbas said:“The Messenger of Allah cursed the Muhallil and the Muhallal lahu.” [Ibn majah Book 9, Hadith 2009]

    ‘Uqbah bin ‘Amir narrated: that the Messenger of said: ‘Shall I not tell you of a borrowed billy goat.” They said: “Yes, O Messenger of!” He said: “He is Muhallil. May curse the Muhallil and the Muhallal lahu.”[Ibn Majah Book 9, Hadith 2011]

    It was narrated that ‘Abdullah said:”The Messenger of Allah cursed the woman who tattoos and the one tattooed, the woman who fixed hair extensions and the one who had her hair get extended, the consumer of Riba and the one who pays it, and Al-Muhallil and Al-Muhallal Lahu.” [Sunan an-Nasa’i 3416]

    Narrated Ali ibn AbuTalib:(The narrator Isma’il said: I think ash-Sha’bi attributed this tradition to the Prophet)The Prophet (ﷺ) said: Curse be upon the one who marries a divorced woman with the intention of making her lawful for her former husband and upon the one for whom she is made lawful. [Sunan Abu Dawud 2076]

    It was narrated from Ibn ‘Awn, from Ash-Sha’bi, from Al-Harith, who said:”The Messenger of Allah [SAW] cursed the one who consumes Riba, the one who pays it, the one who writes it down and the one who witnesses it; the woman who does tattoos and the woman who has that done”- he said: “Unless it is done as a remedy;” he said: “Yes”- “the man who married a woman in order to divorce her so that she may go back to her first husband and the man (the first husband) for whom that is done; and the one who withholds Sadaqah (Zakah). And he used to forbid wailing (in mourning), but he did not say ‘cursed'” [Sunan an-Nasa’i 5104]

    #4.Next she try to twist the meaning of Curse. Well, when in religion something is Cursed that means it’s a sin. Curse is a solemn utterance intended to invoke a supernatural power to inflict harm or punishment on someone or something. Now when we get punishment? When we committ sin. Exactly.
    Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said:With regard to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) cursing them [the muhallil and the muhallal lahu], this is either telling that Allah, may He be exalted, has cursed them, or it is a supplication for them to be cursed. This indicates that it is haraam and is a major sin. [Zaad al-Ma‘aad fi Hadiy Khayr al-‘Ibaad (5/672)]

    Don’t get why Lizzie is so desperate every time. Does she need lies and tricks to spread Christianity?

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