Living with SSA (same sex attraction) as a Muslim.

When I became a Muslim I decided that I would not hide the fact that I have same sex attraction. I wanted liberals and secularists (be they Christian or Muslim) to see that an adult convert to Islam with SSA could freely chose to live according to God’s law (meaning acceptance that all sexual acts outside of heterosexual marriage are haram). Also I wanted to educate any people who ‘hate gays’ that we are just ordinary people, not child molesters or rapists.

I expected to be abused for going public but I felt it was worth it to achieve in some small way my goals to inspire other people with SSA to embrace Islam and to demonstrate that we are just regular people not monsters.

To my surprise I discovered that 99% of Muslims have not abused me (yep, 1 did!).

Sadly most of the abuse comes from fundamentalist Christians like Sam Shamoun who just will not believe that I have chosen to live this way, and that I must be lying.

I still live with my former partner. I have never hidden this. Our friendship is very strong and mutually supportive. He is a Christian and as such we share the same moral code.

Other people’s disbelief that this is possible is their problem not mine. They underestimate the Grace of God and a human’s determination to live rightly.

Fortunately I am accountable only to Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) who sees all things and knows the truth.

Ameen.



Categories: God, Homosexuality, Islam

8 replies

  1. Williams, you still don’t get it. No one condemns you for struggling with same sex attraction, since every human being on the planet struggles with some type of sin or another that they have to fight and suppress. Rather, it is your hypocrisy of still living with the man whom you fornicated with, instead of doing the honorable thing of having him leave your premises or vice versa. So stop appealing to emotion and stop with the red herrings. Would you tolerate a Muslim or even a Christian man still living with the woman that he has been sleeping with for years just because he claims that they are nothing more than friends? Yes or no?

    Moreover, no Muslim has abused you YET because they want to put on the facade that they are a loving community. Like I said, name for me one Muslim country that truly implements sharia that would tolerate you living with your former gay lover AND DO NOTHING ABOUT IT! Name just one for me please! And try living with your former lover in Saudi Arabia, Iran, Iraq, Pakistan etc., and see how long you live. Thankfully, no truly committed Bible believing Christian who follows the message of the NT seriously would ever seek to kill you, whereas a truly devout Muslim has no choice but to do so.

    Until then, do the honorable thing and shut down your site since you are no Muslim, but a vile, inconsistent hypocritical Christophobe whose only purpose in life is to harass and assault Christians who are exposing the lies and falsehood of Muhammad.

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  2. Sam

    You are quite right I still don’t understand you.

    Firstly, you accuse me of hypocrisy. What is hypocrisy? Presumably you mean that I claim to a set of values (sex for heterosexual marriage only) but I do not live by them?

    But this is false. I do live by the values I hold to be true and have done so for many years. There is no honour or any purpose in our separation as there is much value in terms of the support, companionship and friendship in our relationship.

    Your comparison to a heterosexual couple who used to sleep together is interesting, but I don’t think it has a direct bearing on my particular circumstances. Why would a Christian still live with the woman that he has been sleeping with for years ‘just because he claims that they are nothing more than friends’? Makes no sense to me. Perhaps they should get married. Individually they can find sexual fulfillments with other partners. Something I cannot do.

    We will have to disagree about this.

    Actually one Muslim has abused me (check my comment above). However most abuse has come from Christians as I have said. From people just like you Sam. Here in London there is no ‘facade that they [Muslims] are a loving community’ as you claim. You have never been here Sam. I have lived here all my life. Most Muslims are just decent people and don’t bother others.

    I have never been to a Muslim country so I cannot answer your question, but historically many Muslim countries have been very tolerant of all sorts people as long as they are discreet and do not offend against public decency.

    You claim that ‘a truly devout Muslim has no choice but to do so’ – that is to kill me. But this is absurd. I know lots of devout Muslims including some excellent salafi brothers. There is no mandate in Islam to kill me. The shariah is concerned with public law. Two men living in the same property is not contrary to any law I am aware of.

    So sorry to disappoint you, but I won’t be closing down this blog. But the fact that you repeatedly say that I should is most revealing Sam – about you.

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  3. Sam Shamoun

    You said;
    Thankfully, no truly committed Bible believing Christian who follows the message of the NT seriously would ever seek to kill you, whereas a truly devout Muslim has no choice but to do so.

    I say;
    -When John Calvin ordered the execution, burning and desecration the body of Michael Servetus, was he(Calvin) not truly committed Bible Christian who follows the message of NT seriously?

    -When Constance, the son of Constantine, Athanasius of Alexandria, etc. killed Arians for rejecting the illogical Trinitarian concept, were they(Athanasius and co. not truly committed Bible Christian who follows the message of NT seriously?

    -When the Catholics persecuted the protestants, Muslims, Jews and every body, were they not truly committed Bible Christian who follows the message of NT seriously?

    -When the Protestant Christians persecuted the Catholics, Jews, Muslims, Mormons and African slaves in America, were they not truly committed Bible Christian who follows the message of NT seriously?

    -When the evangelical Christians led by Bush and Blair and according to CNN and other media at that time the evangelical Christians support the war in Iraq, even though Christians in Iraq were doing good and the vice president of Saddam Hussein Tariq Aziz was a Christian. Were these evangelical Christians who cause isis and now forcing their senators, congressmen and presidential candidates to revoke the peace deal with Iran and go to war and kill Muslims not truly committed Bible Christian who follows the message of NT seriously?

    -When Pastors Eddie Lee Long, Jimmy Swaggart, Jerry Falwell and Church Fathers who molest children and rape children to prompt Pope Benedict to apologize for the their heinous sin qualify them to not truly committed Bible Christian who follows the message of NT seriously?

    There are so many OT and NT verses about adultery, slavery, killing children, taking women for sex and Jesus Christ said;

    Luke 19:27

    New International Version
    But those enemies of mine who did not want me to be king over them–bring them here and kill them in front of me.'”

    Mind you Sam Shamoun, you also have a problem of big stomach and deal with it because it is equally big problem and you have to pray for your Lord Jesus Christ to heal you.

    Paul Williams have a problem of SSA and it is not a sin by itself, unless he sleeps with anyone and that is between and his God and knows very well Allah is watching him. Paul Williams knows Allah is watching him and so is anyone who believes Allah, even if he is not SSA he is attracted to women.

    In Islam, any sex outside marriage is a sin but not gays alone. Only Allah know what we all do in our bedrooms, including me and you Sam and not Paul Williams alone. Prominent people like Bill Clinton, Bill Cosby, Elliot Spitzer, Mark Sanford, Anthony Weiner, John Edwards etc. were caught in promiscuity and having sex outside marriages.

    So, Sam, WE( I and you) and anyone cannot publicly claim we are perfect but only God knows because no one thought Bill Clinton, John Edwards or Cosby will commit this sins.

    With regards to PW staying in the same room with his partner, we advised because of satan, they must separate but it is not a sin to stay together if they do not commit sin.

    So many people can actually control themselves, yes they can. Some Muslim s will not be happy with someone staying with an attracted sex and most will leave everything to God and keep advising because no one is perfect.

    Muslms we do not hate gay people but we hate the act of homosexuality, fornication, child molesting, child abuse, adultery, etc. because every body is attracted to either a woman or a man. Attraction is how we are created but the Quran said “lower your gaze” because it is only an abnormal person who will see an attractive lady or man and not be attracted to her or him.

    We see movies lovers saying George Clooney is attractive or Angelina Jolie is attractive. Is it sin. I do not think so but the Quran said “lower your gaze” and it means do not keep looking and attracting yourself too much to become lust.

    Thanks.

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  4. correction Paul Williams has……..

    Not have

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  5. Yes. I work and blog and not English, so when I type I do not have time to spell check and I know sometimes but not all times my grammar and spellings are bad. InshaAllah, I am making good points and people do understand. I will try copying and pasting in word for it to do the job for me.

    Thanks.

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  6. Sam Shamoun

    Donald Trump latest hate to Muslims and Islam.

    Trump said;
    Trump said; “Islam hates us” According to Ryan Lizza a CNN contributor and the Washington correspondent for The New Yorker magazine. Contributing CNN situation room told Wolf Blitzer when he goes to republican rallies, the evangelical Christians do not like Islam and Muslims, that is why Donald Trump is winning and his polls going high. March 10 2016.

    This will tell you that it is not Muslims who hates “us”-the west, but it is the evangelicals conservatives who hates Muslims and Islam. They supported for war to kill Muslims and now supporting someone who will kill Muslims.

    Sam Shamoun, are evangelical conservative Christians continued supporting presidents and presidential candidates to persecute Muslims not truly committed Bible Christian who follows the message of NT seriously?

    Thanks.

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