MY WIFE, I AM SORRY | Jack The Lad


Jack The Lad

He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought
He woke up in the morning and found her praying. He heard her praying for him. He stared at her. It has been a long time since he
has seen her praying. For the past few months, they have been arguing. Last night, they had a nasty fight, He went to the kitchen in a hurry to prepare himself breakfast.

These past few days, she hasn’t been cooking for him, to his shock he found breakfast already set at the table. He ate. He went back to the bedroom, to prepare for a shower. She left the shower. “Good morning. Have a blessed day” she said as she entered the bedroom and he left for…

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  1. Many people say it’s sad when the only thing keeping people together is a common faith. When men flirt, or even cheat, their wives suffer incomprehensibly (from man’s view). Nevertheless, couples remain married, neither one truly content. In this case, the suffering woman finds solace from an intolerable situation by ‘ignoring’ it and turning to God instead, meaning she was helpless and found a means to adapt. He now inexplicably feels no more urge towards other women? A man who looks at other women doesn’t look at them simply because of the nature of his wife. Whether she is beautiful, charming or otherwise, many men will keep an eye open for new opportunities. It is in his nature to be attracted to them. Of course he must restrain himself and not commit adultery. Many men and women continue to remain in marriages despite that the initial attraction (if any) has long since faded. This leads to unhappiness, mental illness and indeed poor physical health. There are many reasons why people remain in such states, such as financial, children, image etc. In financial cases, much peace of mind follows when one of the parties has the availability of a second apartment, and relief is often immediate. Children flit between both parents, and provided the parents remain in an Islamic mindset, no great harm is done. It takes a little courage to separate but God prefers courage over despondency. God has told us that between man and woman there ought to be a sense of peace, joy, and potential for success. If there isn’t then it’s not marriage as God intended.
    Although we should sincerely try to remain married if by trying we can reach that joyful state. But if it has descended to levels of abuse, dishonour, and drudgery , we should divorce.
    Quran 4:128 “And if a woman fears from her husband contempt or evasion, there is no sin upon them if they make terms of settlement between them – and settlement is best. And present in [human] souls is stinginess. But if you do good and fear Allah – then indeed Allah is ever, with what you do, Acquainted.”
    If we do sum up the courage God says He will help both by enriching them. This is a reward.
    Quran 4:130 “But if they separate [by divorce], Allah will enrich each [of them] from His abundance. And ever is Allah Encompassing and Wise.
    We are told in hadith that God hates divorce, and of course it’s a great sadness. But if we look closely at what the Quran says, it seems to tell us that divorce is also a mercy of sorts.


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